Dirty Martini Society

There comes a point in a person's dating life that they think to themselves, "is this it?" I mean most of us date people within our own age group, and sadly to say that most of the time guys my age rarely seem to impress me. Don't get me wrong, guys in my age group are pretty cool; we are able to connect on a lot of levels and our dialect encompasses the same words. However, after a while you find yourself wanting to date guys that actually have more to talk about than Britney Spears or how "awesome" the latest Fall Out Boy song is. You start scoping out guys that are a little older partly because they have lived life a little longer and are settled in their own independent lives. One in particular catches your eye and surprisingly he's into you as well. The communication starts off slow, a phone call here or there, maybe an email thread. This builds up to the first date which could arguably be the best date of your life. Dinner, drinks, intelligent conversation all leading up to romantic good night kiss. The weeks following seem like a dream. He's charming, attentive...hell you've even mentioned him to your mom. Then after a couple months of dating you let him know that you are really into him. Now at this point logic steps in and suggests that he would echo your sentiment and the two of you would become more attached..perhaps even exclusive. But life being this amazing entity doesn't let you go quite so easily. Your distinguished older gent becomes aloof. Increasingly he becomes more insecure around you, almost to the point that hanging out isn't even fun anymore. The sweet emails and calls at 1am to talk about nothing stop and you're left wondering, "What the hell." After about 3 weeks of this you realize that the older guy is no different from some of the other guys you've dated. In fact those guys in your age range seem even more attractive because even they would have been upfront with you sooner, even if it was after taking 10 shots of vodka and suddenly having the need to "be honest" with you. So your time with the older guy goes down in your book as a lesson learned and hopefully never to be repeated again...well maybe.